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ARE YOU HEADING FOR A BREAK-THROUGH OR A BREAK-DOWN??
Steps toward a Leadership Breakdown: 1. Comparison. No matter what you've experienced, remember this: there are people who've had it better than you and done worse; and there are people who've had it worse than you and done better. I've watched some very talented people miss opportunities because they were worried about what someone else was receiving or achieving. If you prepare yourself to the best of your abilities and give your all in every situation, you will be successful. You may not always win, but you will be a winner. One of my favorite thoughts about comparison comes from a young girl who was competing in a pageant. "There will always be someone prettier than me, more talented than me, and more graceful than me. I can only hope they aren't on the same stage as me." 2. Rationalization. In this day and age it seems that people can rationalize any situation. A cartoon which appeared a few years ago in the New Yorker showed two clean-shaven middle-aged men sitting together in a jail cell. One inmate turned to the other and said, "All along, I thought our level of corruption fell well within community standards." Taking responsibility instead of rationalizing is a matter of integrity. And integrity is the foundation of leadership. 3. Isolation. You can't be a leader if you're all alone. Leadership requires teamwork, and teamwork requires people. Trying to avoid a challenge or problem by isolating yourself from everyone always results in a larger problem. You may need to separate yourself from most of the group to solve a problem; however, you should always have contact with at least one other person who can mentor you and help you through the situation. Your mentor may not be able to help you find a solution quicker, but a mentor serves as an encourager, which is sometimes just as valuable. 4. Regret. Yesterday ended last night. As much as we would like to, we can't go back and change what has already happened. We can only move forward and do the best we can today. Regret merely drains our energy and makes it harder to move on. 5. Bitterness. Past hurts can make you bitter or better. If you hold onto disappointment you become bitter. If you learn from disappointment you have a better chance of not facing the same disappointment later on. I have found that grudges hurt me more than they will the other person; therefore, clinging to bitterness wastes time and energy. In my book, "Failing Forward", I recount the story of Joseph of the ancient Hebrews. He was thrown into a pit, sold into slavery, falsely accused, and put in jail; however, he didn't hold a grudge against the people who wronged him. Joseph found the positive benefits in his negative experiences, and went on to be a powerful ruler in Egypt.Become the Leader within you and share your greatness! SOAR FOR THE MOON AND TAKE POSSESSION OF THE STARS!!!! Leadership by NSD Arlene Lenarz
Who use their influence at the right times for the right reasons; Who take a greater share of the blame and a smaller share of the credit; Who lead themselves successfully before attempting to lead others; Who continue to search for the best answer, not the easiest one; Who add value to the people and organization they lead; Who work for the benefit of others and not only for personal gain; Who handle themselves with their heads and handle others with their hearts; Who know the way, go the way, and show the way; Who inspire and motivate rather than intimidate and manipulate; Who live with people to know their problems and live with God to solve them; Who realize their dispositions are more important than their positions; Who mold opinions instead of following opinion polls, Who understand that an institution, a company, is the reflection of their character; Who never place themselves above others except in carrying responsibilities; Who will be as honest in small things as in great things; Who discipline themselves so they will not be disciplined by others; Who encounter setbacks and turn them into comebacks; Who follow a moral compass that points in the right direction regardless of the trends. |
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